Attachment Play: How to solve children's behavior problems with play, laughter, and connection

It gives so much valuable information to parents. I can’t praise enough! Wished this would be given to every parents as a must read. Mind blowing and it works!

Does your kid’s behavior sometimes, or maybe often, stress you out? Push your buttons? Try your patience? Or otherwise concern you? If so, I cannot recommend this brilliant book – which concerns simple, joyful methods for getting at root causes of troublesome behavior – strongly enough.Aletha Solter’s methods resolve troublesome, difficult, or challenging behavior in a deep and lasting way (something “time outs,” for example, do not accomplish); strengthen a mutual, loving bond between you and your child; and prevent your child from developing emotional problems, which may potentially be life-long.It’s quite a feat, actually (and it’s backed up by research).*Attachment Play* is divided into three parts:-- Part 1 includes an introduction to attachment play and general guidelines to keep in mind while using it.-- In Part 2 Solter addresses solving discipline problems connected to eliciting cooperation; setting limits; toilet training; use of “bad” language; anger and aggression; sibling rivalry; lying, cheating, and stealing; homework; and bedtime.-- Part 3 concerns using attachment play to help your child through difficult times, with specific chapters on birth trauma; birth of a sibling; parental divorce; natural disasters and terrorism; illnesses, accidents, and hospitalization; separation trauma; school stress; phobias and anxieties; preparation for difficult events; and parental anger. The book also includes an appendix that provides a substantial summary of the empirical basis for attachment play techniques, with a long list of references.Solter’s writing style could not be better. Her writing is extremely clear, and to the point. There are lots of welcome examples of applications of her techniques with clients’, and at times her own, children.I encourage any current or future parent to read this book, and am confident that you will find it very worthwhile.

Fantastic book. I bought it after reading How to talk so your kids will listen and Listen so your kids will talk (which I also highly recommend). The games are simple and there's an easy explanation as to what it will help your child feel and cope with. My only thought is: Geez, get a more attractive novel cover! My child has been having aggression issues and there has been a difficult family illness which has put a lot of stress on our family. I have read many books, but this technique just makes sense. I started by simply playing with my son every night I have been home for 10-15 minutes (legos on the floor). Tried to make it fun and laugh a lot. We had some regression at times, but have also heard things like "he's a changed kid." I now understand that my sons aggression was coming from fear and anxiety which he needed to work through.

I was at the end of my rope with my 3.5 year old's tantruming and defiance, to the point where I sought professional help. The therapist philosophy was to disrupt my child's tantrum with playfulness and laughter and he recommended this book. It's a good companion to "Discipline Without Tears". I also got "Playful Parenting", which contains a lot of practical examples. Addressing behavior issues (as well as your own behavior) with playfulness and laughter was a pretty big paradigm shift and I recommend it highly.

This book is on target . Excellent book and it comes from the heart. I am sure many people will see that, there so much is common sense here. In the book you may find things your child does and start recognizing them. Which helps a lot, here you will be able to spot behaviors that may have gone unnoticed. I think that any parent who reads this book will learn so much useful information.

I love this book and so does my 8 year old son. He likes to choose one of the 9 types of play so that we can be together, connect, and he can work out some of his feelings. He loves that there is a book about how to play with your child, and thinks that all parents should read it. I agree! All parents should have this book on hand.Thank you Dr. Solter! I wouldn't want to try parenting without the guidance, research, knowledge and experience you have shared in your books.

Best parenting book ever. Read slot of parenting books that have nothing new to say or are too general vague. This book offers a fantastic approach to dealing with specific problems and has lots of specific examples that are truly useful. It has transformed the way me and my husband parent and we are happier and more effective because of it!

First off, I really like the layout of this book. If you were looking to solve a particular issue in your child's behavior you can find a section on it quickly and easily.The information has been very useful for me.Even if you are having no issues it can help you get down on your child's level and play with them.I highly recommend this book for all parents.

A really wonderful resource for parents who want to gain some new skills, or be a bit more therapeutic in their play. Lots of good ideas and it's not full of technical babble, it's certainly accessible for the "normal" parent. Really great book!

Great advice and methods - found this particularly useful in the early stages of adopting.

Ottimo libro da leggere e rileggere più volte per capire come gestire emozioni nei propri figli e invece di usare metodi antiquati e punitivi, meglio empatia e gioco come attachment parenting.

I read it first and then I felt I should distribute it in my whole family and friends' circle where young children are being raised!I was puzzled how I should play with my baby, and if this would be good at all. So many say let your child play alone so that he gets used to it and doesn't bother you too much... Thank god, this book saves me now from those silly considerations. It shares Dr. Solter's invaluable knowledge about children's feelings and behaviour, based on scientific research, logic and experience. It's really easy to understand and identify with these principles, and it is also relieving to use this knowledge in our daily life! So, I start sharing the book at Christmas. :-)

A great help to any parent! It changed our day to day with the kids