Getting to Yes with Yourself: (And Other Worthy Opponents)

The book came in a timely manner and it was in great shape. The book is really interesting. It's a very easy read, but there are tons of really good insights in it.

I bought this book expecting to be overwhelmed with theories and tips for getting the edge on those that sit opposite me, in life’s negotiations.Instead I got life lessons, which on the face of it felt logical and practical but in reality require hard work and serious commitment.One of the most useful and engaging books I have read in a while. Will re-read often.

In some ways this book pales by comparison to the author's earlier books (e.g., it does not give a good introduction to some of the idioms). But it gets to a point that is often overlooked: really understanding where YOU are coming from--in a negotiation or a job interview (which is a kind of negotiation). It is a quick read and I found it valuable enough to give to my step daughter (who is graduating and looking for either jobs or grad school) as a birthday present. I'd like to give it 4.5 stars: I really like it, but I want to record that it may not be the best introduction to William Ury.

Having recently read Getting to Yes, Getting Past No, and the Power of a Positive No, I thoroughly enjoyed reading William Ury’s fourth book in this series Getting to Yes with Yourself.I first read Getting to Yes many years ago while I was studying for my MBA. Now, with more business and life experiences, I am able to much better appreciate the content of Getting to Yes with Yourself. It seems that Urey, too, benefitted with more experience to able to write his book. As the title suggests, readers will look inward, rather than outward, to find that their most challenging and worthy opponents are most often themselves.When reading this book, you will need to be in the right frame of mind. That is, allow yourself some time after each chapter to reflect on the content and to allow yourself to be open to change.Ury sums up the core essence of his book when he states, “the better we are able to get to yes with ourselves, the better we will be able to get to yes with others.”I highly recommend Getting to Yes with Yourself.

This is a book of practical wisdom. Quite a little gem! I know Ury's work from his seminal book "Getting to Yes" (a brilliant classic about the art and practice of mediation) In this book we are directed inward, to how the greatest conflicts that we face everyday are within ourselves and that unless we learn to stop being at war with ourselves, we will suffer and will not be able to be the best we can be in the rest of our lives. Then he gives us simple but powerful practices about how to end the inner conflict. This little volume is full of psychological, Spiritual and practical wisdom, all put in beautifully simple language that makes it completely accessible. Ury weaves his journey with his daughter who was born with serious and ongoing medical issues with tales from the negotiating table involving major world conflicts. He's been there and the mix of his personal journey with stories from his career as a mediator are told with a humility and no big deal-ness- that i found totally refreshing and unpretentious. It's an enjoyable read too.. Even though i have been involved in the worlds of both mediation and personal growth for decades, I felt well instructed, inspired and renewed. I know I will be implementing many of his suggestions and passing them onto others as well.

Kind of basic - nothing earth shaking but still good concepts, clearly stated. The author's background is impressive, as are his personal experiences.

William Ury has negotiated business partnership breakups, hostage crises, and labor strikes. He has mediated conflicts between Irish Catholics and Protestants, Israelis and Palestinians, and in other war zones. He writes from experience.This is not an ordinary self-help book. We can be grateful it is considered "a primary business text". This book has clarity and the potential to transform attitudes of zero sum scarcity to greater gentleness and "win-win-win". Beginning where the reader is, he quotes Goethe, "Know thyself? If I knew myself, I'd run away". To commence by listening to oneself nonjudgmentally. The second task is to develop the "Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement", a commitment to take care of one's needs independent of what others do. The third is to see life as friendly which allays fears of scarcity. The fourth is refrain, even in conflict, from past and future resentments and anxieties. The fifth is to respect, to accept and to include others (even when they are difficult). The final challenge is to approach by giving first instead of taking.These six steps may sound simple or reductive. I tried to approach this book without evaluating. It is a great personal challenge to develop these insights and skills. Reading this book slowly, chapter by chapter; taking it in, taking time - not skimming, the author's voice has become a whispering in my ear, an aspirational helpmeet centering me during current negotiations.

Clearly the author is someone who knows what he is talking about. As a conflict averse person, his wisdom may be over my head but it’s a start.

So many profound messages that speak to the soul on prospective. Would highly recommend to anyone. This is the first book I have read by William Ury and have ordered all of his others. I read the whole book in one sitting and then reread highlighting what I believe are the key takeaways. What a monumental shift in how one views the world and the problems all of us face.

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This is a good book, it demonstrates how to get to yes in your own mind and then with other people. It offers 6 steps in a cycle towards feeling positive and attaining what you want in life.It is full of practical tips and stories demonstrating the points.I particularly appreciate reading about his daughter, Gabi, and her impact in their lives.I recommend this not just for business people, but for anyone feeling frustrated and wanting to find new ways to feel stronger in their lives.

Aunque mucho más íntimo y personal que su primera contribución a la negociación, y más en la onda moderna de la meditación y el mindfulness, se pueden extraer de él y de sus ejemplos valiosas enseñanzas.

Excelente publicação do William Ury, abrangendo as técnicas de negociação estratégica e viés comportamental do negociador, incluindo as barreiras psicológicas.