The 5 Love Languages Singles Edition

Five years ago, in the context of a volunteer team, I was introduced to "the five love languages." It's the concept that every expression of love falls into one of five basic categories. Now, for the first time, I read one of Gary Chapman's books on the subject, The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition. It explores this concept from the viewpoint of various singles (never married, widowed, divorced). According to the Goodreads rating system, "it was amazing"—that's 5/5 stars from me. As an avid story-lover, I thoroughly enjoyed Gary Chapman's use of true stories to illustrate how an awareness of the five love languages has helped people cultivate, mend, or excel in their various relationships. Romantic, familial, platonic—the nature of the relationship doesn't matter. Of course, he's promoting his idea, so it's not in his interest to share instances of failure. Nonetheless, the book's versatile selection of success testimonies inspires confidence that there is great insight to be found in this philosophy. It's evident that the author really believes what he teaches. There are some nuances or side points of The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition that I question, but for the most part, it was an enriching read. The languages of love that this book teaches are "Words of Affirmation," "Acts of Service," "Receiving Gifts," "Quality Time," and "Physical Touch." Though it isn't common knowledge in the general public, it seems intuitive, once explored, that different expressions of love will hold different levels of importance to different individuals. For one person, uplifting and affirming words are the key to the heart, while for another it's quality time. In His Word, God exhorts us to look not only to our own interests but also to the interests of others (Philippians 2:4) and to consider how to stir up one another to love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24). The fact is, while we all need love (from both God and people), our interests look different at a grassroots level. It takes thoughtful consideration to know what will stir up love in another. I really appreciate the attention this book gives to exploring the dynamics of human relationships. The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition by Gary Chapman was insightful and delightful, hence the 5/5 stars I give it. I would be interested in reading more of his spinoffs based on the core concept of the five love languages, and I would recommend this book to anyone interested in exploring the dynamics of human relationships as God has made it.

I had read the 5 love languages when I was married and it was a good book, but although I had the tools not all things could be fixed with knowledge. After my divorce, I picked up this book, and it is very different than the married edition. It was great, there were so many different perspectives for singles that really helped. What I was surprised about, was how this book would help me not with my own romantic relationships, but how I helped me build my relationship with my daughter who is 14. She is struggling to feel loved and I was trying to show her love the way I knew how, but it was not talking to her. Understanding how people love languages had been shaped by their relationships with their parents, helped me understand what I needed to do to fix my relationship with my daughter and help her understand how much I loved her in a way she could understand. I highly recommend this book. If you are single, and even if you are not in a romantic relationship currently, it will help in many different relationships in your life.

Why I Choose this Book: I was first introduced to the 5 Love Languages about six or seven years ago when I was in my late teens, and my world was literally changed. Around that time I read one of the 5 Love Languages books, but I’m not sure what edition. I figured it was time to do a refresher course, hence the reason for requesting this book. What I Thought about this Book: If I hadn’t already known about the 5 Love Languages and a lot of the material in this book, I think I would have had millions of light bulb moments going off. This book is a treasury of so much helpful information and explanations and logic that it’s crazy. For those of you who don’t know, the 5 Love Languages are 1) Words of Affirmation 2) Physical Touch 3) Quality Time 4) Acts of Service and 5) Gifts. These are the five primary way that people give and receive love. It’s amazing how much sense this makes after you’ve studied it for a bit. Then pieces start falling into place, and the relationships you have can be greatly enhanced just by learning how to speak other people’s primary love languages. I was a bit surprised how much of the book focused on the romantic side of the love languages (how to treat someone you’re dating, etc…), but I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. I’ve just found the love languages work incredible well for everyone – including family, friends, and even somewhat distant friendships such as co-workers. The book does go into how to apply the love languages to all the above situations, just not to the extreme that I had imagined it would. If you ever feel like you’re not connecting with people well – especially those who you should have a good relationship with, such as family members, then this book will most likely revolutionize your relationships. It is so eye opening and practical. I’m incredibly thankful to have learned how to relate to people better. Conclusion: There were a few places with a bit of content that I wouldn’t be okay giving to children, but that’s perfectly fine, because it wasn’t written for children. (For instance on the chapter about physical touch being one of the love languages, they talk briefly about abuse. But, they handle everything in a way that I found very appropriate.) I don’t agree with everything that’s in the book, but for the most part the information is incredibly helpful and totally spot-on. I highly recommend the book. Rating: I’m giving The Five Love Languages: Singles Edition 5 out of 5 stars, and 10 out of 10. *I received this book from Moody Press

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Necessary information to have for a successful, long term and fulfilling relationship.

This book is very simple to read, it contains simple messages, many examples. I delivers a different, actually, more simple perspective of how to approach people, how to understand them better. It can also serve introspection purposes. Also, it is not only a love relationship book, it can enhance the communication and improve all relationships, with kids, coworkers, friends, etc. It is an easy read. I already recommended it to my friends.

Pretty clear and logical . This can work wonders in all relationships. But this would work only if people were willing to understand others. Start by bring kind toeards yourself and the people around you and you will see all the love and happiness coming your way ! Thanks Mr.Chapman for writing this book. God bless.

Interesante teoría y fácil de comprender. Recomendable para regalar a círculo social cercano.