The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It

I highly recommend Dr. McGonigal's book. First, she uses research to confront our stories about willpower and how we think we will have more willpower in the future than we exhibit today. I had to laugh because I saw myself in much of her research. Then, she tells you how to focus on what you want to change your behavior and get what you want. She gives you great tools to train your brain to increase your willpower. It's easy to read and motivating for anyone aiming to accomplish something meaningful.

If you need more willpower (don't we all?), then this book is for you.The author leaves no stone unturned as she cites study after study to explain why we lack willpower and how we can get more of it. An important theme throughout the book is awareness-- once we understand the circumstances under which we fail to exercise willpower, then we can began to make changes. And as the author points out at the close of the book, the mere act of becoming more self-aware is sufficient enough to create change in some people's lives. However, do not mistake this to mean that this is simply a book full of academic theory about willpower; rather, each chapter is replete with "experiments" that provide clear-cut guidance as to how you can put the theory into practice in your own life.Here's a brief breakdown of each chapter:1) The author defines willpower, distinguishes between "I will" (I will begin exercising each day) and "I won't" (I won't eat fatty foods) challenges, and discusses how we have essentially two warring sides to our personality (the side that wants instant gratification, and the side that wants to achieve our long-term goals). She suggests tracking your willpower choices to increase your awareness and meditation as a means of building willpower (willpower is like a muscle and can be trained to become stronger over time).2) The author discusses the evolution of willpower and why a lack of willpower may have served an evolutionary purpose (our ancestors would have been wise to consume large amounts of fatty food if given the opportunity, since there was more uncertainty back then about when their next meal might arise), as well as the ways in which stress reduces our willpower (you are sad after a relationship ended and decide to eat a piece of cake as comfort food). As a means of increasing willpower, the author suggests engaging in focused breathing, outdoor walks or activity (just five minutes is sufficient to have an impact), getting adequate sleep, and lying down to relax.3) The more frequently we exercise willpower, the easier it becomes. Willpower can become drained, and it ebbs and flows throughout the day. Sometimes we think our willpower is exhausted but this is just our brain trying to trick us into conserving energy-- this explains how long-distance runners are able to push on. The author suggests eating a better diet and engaging in certain activities intended to increase willpower.4) This is easily one of the best chapters-- the author discusses "moral licensing" and how we can use our good behavior (not eating chocolate cake) to justify being bad (eating chocolate cake). The author's solution is to remind yourself why you were being good in the first place. This section also discusses how we discount the future and assume that tomorrow will be different than today. We tell ourselves we'll have more willpower tomorrow, but the fact is we will face the same challenges tomorrow that we face today.5) The author discusses the function of dopamine and how it can prompt us to behave like rats pulling a lever to get an electric shock. Many of our willpower failures (e.g., checking email excessively) are simply us pointlessly trying to get a reward because of a rush of dopamine (that occurs when we hear a trigger, like "You've got mail!"). Fortunately, by understanding how dopamine works we can turn it to our advantage by linking rewards to tasks that we've been procrastinating.6) This chapter was counterintuitive and thus incredibly helpful. It turns out that beating yourself up over willpower failures (e.g., I shouldn't have eaten that Twinkie!) actually makes us more likely to fail again because we're making ourselves sad (and what do we turn to when we're sad? More Twinkies, of course!). The author recommends self-acceptance and positivity instead of guilt and self-criticism-- fantasize about how good you'll feel when you eat healthier foods instead of guilt-tripping yourself about that chocolate bar you ate at lunch.7) Many of us see the future far different than we see the present-- we naively assume that we'll be more responsible or have more willpower in the future, so we put off onerous tasks for our "future self" to deal with. Unfortunately, our future self is the same person as our present self, and we're only tricking ourselves if we think otherwise. An additional problem is that some of us deeply discount the value of future rewards and place far too much emphasis on present rewards (taking $10 today instead of $50 one year from now). The author suggests thinking more about your future self (e.g., using FutureMe.org to write a letter to your future self) to become accustomed to the notion that you and your future self are one and the same. Also, you can "pre-commit" to your future self by doing things like purchasing an expensive gym membership to exercise, but this struck me as a little superficial as someone who is struggling with willpower can simply ignore the commitments they made. On a side note, the author suggests waiting 10 minutes before engaging in any behavior that the present self is screaming for (I NEED to buy that book now!) that I have found incredibly useful.8) Willpower is contagious-- if you hang out with a bunch of people who are unmotivated, you will be tempted to "mirror" their behaviors and emotions. "Social proof" even suggests that we engage in foolish behavior due to a herd mentality (everybody else is doing it, so I should do it too). The author recommends finding a willpower idol we can look up to (someone we believe exerts exemplary willpower), spend some time reviewing our goals at the beginning of each day, and publicly commit to our willpower challenges so the pressure of not disappointing our friends and family can motivate us to exercise self-control. I can personally attest to the power of publicly committing to a challenge, as I thru-hiked the Appalachian Trail in 2012 and saw many hikers continue onward simply because they didn't want to tell everyone they didn't have what it takes to go on. Of course, this strategy isn't fool proof-- otherwise hundreds of people wouldn't quit the trail each year. But knowing that other people are watching is certainly an incentive to exercise willpower. The author also mentions getting a willpower buddy and holding each other accountable, which works for the same reasons that making a public commitment does.9) This chapter seemed a little out of place. The book had been discussing willpower and then all of a sudden it takes a U-turn and starts discussing how unpleasant thoughts can intrude in our minds. However, I soon saw the value in what the author was saying as well as how it fits into the overall willpower picture. The main idea is that we cannot control whether we have unhelpful or even disturbing thoughts, and suppressing such thoughts only causes us to focus on them more. Instead, we need to accept these thoughts, but also acknowledge that we are not compelled to act on them. The author cites an entertaining study about a group of people who were asked not to think of white bears but subsequently could think of nothing else. The trick is to allow yourself to permit the thought (or urge, say to smoke a cigarette) rather than fighting it. We can't control our thoughts, but we can control whether we choose to act on them, and trying to suppress our thoughts only increases the probability we will act on them. Again, it's counterintuitive, but it's supported by an ample amount of research which the author weaves into the narrative of the book.10) A good conclusion, albeit a little brief.This book is an excellent addition to the positive psychology genre, and I can easily see how this became such a popular class at Stanford (where the author is a professor).If you want to know why you don't have the willpower you wish you had and how you can take action to change this, then stop procrastinating and exercise the willpower to buy this book :)

The Willpower Instinct is based on a course the author gives at a prestigious american university. She covers a number of ways to handle your willpower but ultimately, it becomes about mindfulness about our cravings, urges and decisions. There were a number of good lessons: the white bear exercise, you and you 2.0 and surfing the urge.A study asked participants to not think about a white bear. It was pretty much impossible. The only way to escape an undesired thought is very counter intuitive: allow it to enter your consciousness. Simply allowing it to enter and observing it will not hurt us is quite powerful. If you've ever been anxious or woken up at night praying you'll fall asleep you'll know when the white bear applies.You and you 2.0 observes when we procrastinate we think you in the future (you 2.0) is more energetic, happier, smarter, stronger and less stressed than you. When you can accept that the future you won't be Superman but the same old you, you might just get things done straight away.The last strategy I'll discuss involves the intense observation of addictive urges - some might think this applies to alcoholics only, but anyone who looks at their cell phone more than they like or drinks coffee as a habit is an addict in my mind. In this excercise, smokers were told to spend an hour and a half going through the steps of lighting a cigarette, without touching the flame to the cigarette and surfing but not satisfying the urge. Taking these steps, smokers were able to resist their urges much more easily a week later.The tough part of the book is reading it slowly, maximum one chapter every three/four days (ideally one per week) and using the strategies. Isn't it ironic reading the book properly requires above average willpower? Just like any self help book, for the book to work the reader needs to participate to make it a success. Aren't they going to write the book that the reader only has to read and all changes will be complete ;-)? Good luck and enjoy - don't expect miracles, expect some sensible, well-researched advice and strategies that if employed might help make the change you want.

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I liked the instantly applicable willpower tasks. Already changing my life as I read. Highly recommend.

A good read to get awarenes of yourself, why things happens to you and our society, and learn some tools that will give you willpower to get you closer to your goals.

I enjoyed the structure of the book alot especially the section with the will-power challenge experiments and the summary sections with the main points. There's so much intriguing information that it really helped to have these summary sections to remind you of the most important points.The many scientific studies described in the book were really the icing on the cake for me. It helped me believe that the strategies proposed by the author were not just opinions.It was a good read and I am adopting a few strategies especially self-awareness and surfing the urge!Thank you Dr. Kelly

A must read if you want a more plentiful life. Lots of real life examples in a easy to understand language.