It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy

Before I review this book...I would like to get a major pet peeve off my chest. I read some of the reviews before I started writing this and came across a review where the person had not read the whole book yet wrote a review. I would like to say that a review is where you read the WHOLE BOOK and then criticize it all you like...not read it halfway through and feel that writing a review is credible. It is not. The point of a review is to offer up your point of view which is not possible if you haven't read the whole book. Now that I have said that...I thought this book was terrific. Whether you dislike Greg using the word Superfox or not...the book was insightful, funny, compassionate and didn't offer the same platitudes or psychobabble that one encounters in other books of this genre. Greg and Amiira did not write this book from some lofty ivory tower. They have been in the trenches like a lot uf us. Greg drank and chased after his ex until he finally saw the light at the end of a very long tunnel and got into AA. Amiira was married and while not as destructive as Greg...her pain, misery [and sleepless nights] are nearly as poignant as Greg's. I have read this book three times and found something new to hold on to each time I read it. Some of the elements I particularly liked in this book start with the questions to Greg and his answers...sometimes tart ["how about pretending not to be completey crazy" he says to one woman in the throes of...well..acting completely crazy] were always enlightening. I also enjoyed "The Best Worst News", and "What I Did Wrong" where Greg and Amiira share...what they did wrong. "Psycho Confessionals" was actually great fun to read because while a lot of us have gone off the deep end when we are going through a break up...not all of us have gone to the extent some of these women have. I have offered up a silent prayer of thanks that while I thought I might go nuts...I never showed up at his door acting like it. One very smart idea that Greg and Amiira came up with was after giving advice on what you should do in the recovery proces... and while you are in the midst of moaning to yourself that you can't possibly do that...they offer up "How The Hell Am I Supposed To Do That" because they understand exactly how hard it is. My story ends a little differently because my boyfriend and I actually got back together. But here is where the book is a treasure for another reason. Instead of spending my time when I am not with my boyfriend...obsessing about my boyfriend [something I have done in every past relationship] I am using all the breakup rules they have as if we had really broken up and have re-connected with old friends...started exercising again and am completely re-organizing my life...all off which had fallen completely by the wayside as my concentration was centered around him. If my boyfriend and I had not gotten back together...I would have been able to handle it without going completely to pieces [after I initially went completely to pieces] and the fact that we have gotten back together...I am now handling the relationship and my life differently...thanks to this book. In my opinion...this is the definitive book on breaking up and I would like to thank both Greg and Amiira for helping me tremendously both during during the break up and how I have handled myself since. So to my surprise...this book actually works on more then one level.

I read this book when my husband and I were just dating and he broke up with me. I was devastated. But I bought it and followed the advice and certainly most people are not going to get back together but the advice that the book gives is immeasurable and I have purchased it now I think 11 times for 11 friends and they have all been extremely thankful. It doesn’t matter whether you’re getting back together or not what matters is your dignity and this book is fabulous. Many years later it is still a fabulous book with excellent advice! And it’s funny.

I was hesitant about whether I'd actually enjoy this book based on some of the reviewers, but I was pleasantly surprised! I went through a breakup earlier this year that broke my heart, and I pretty much chased him for the last 5 months to no avail. I think our continued hangouts helped create a better foundation, but it didn't get me what I wanted in the end...him. I wanted to read something to help me put things in perspective about my thoughts, potentially his thoughts and what one must do to move on. I wanted something fun and cheerful, and this definitely delivered! One of the most important aspects of this book is the authors's honest accounts of their own experiences. I felt like they were giving us their complete selves when describing their heartache and mindset, and I totally appreciated that. They really want you to understand that they get it. They get that this is very difficult-- that you don't understand why this is happening to you, you were blindsided, he acted like everything was OK, why did he act like everything was OK, could I have changed anything, can I win him back..? Etc, etc. We all have those questions rolling around in our heads that drive us bonkers. This book does not take away from the actual pain that we feel after learning we no longer have that one person we cherish so much. SO! They detail some encouraging and practical advice on how to work on ourselves while going through the pain. No one is telling you harshly to get over it...but reminding you that you'll get through it! You'll also get additional stories from other readers that will remind you that the experience could have been worse..LOL I laughed a few times while reading, and I felt refreshed and motivated once I'd completed this book. It's still hard, but it's nice to know I can read words of encouragement when I'm feeling blue. Let us smile! :)

Read this when I was younger and I got it for my 16 year old reader. She loved it! Great quality, not a rip or crease.

LOVED this book! I've recently been through a devastating break-up and came across this gem on Kindle. I absolutely devoured it within the first day or so. Currently reading it a second time just to let it sink in. This book deals with break-ups in a compassionate, understanding and most importantly - humorous way and when you're feeling like crap that's a great recipe to soothe the hurt. It's obviously not a quick fix, but this book contains fantastic advice from cover to cover and is written by two amazing people who fully understand what it's like to suffer the pain of a break-up. Honestly, I would and will recommend this one to all of my ladies!! Has to be #1 in my break-up booklist. (Thank you, thank you, thank you, Greg and Amiira. This is exactly what my poor, shattered heart needed.)

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This is a very good book, especially for women who are going through a breakup. It's practical, there is no overthinking, no overanalyzing, it's about simple accepting things the way they are! I bet not even our friends are that sincere to us as this book is.

I recently went through a very tough breakup which - for me - came totally unexpected after many years of relationship. I thought he was my soulmate. He was not. And this book opens your eyes in ways that no other book does: Most books about breakups are written by women, who don't really understand men - lets face it. Then, there are all those horrible "win your ex back" books with questionable manipulation strategies that will only prolong your already unbearable suffering. Forget all that. For me, it was important to understand the male perspective. So i bought this book. Yes, it was published in 2006 and might be a bit "old fashioned" sometimes. Someone else mentioned earlier "it's too american" (i don't need to be called "hot superfox" every few pages) but hey, its funny. Greg is VERY direct (while being funny at the same time) and this is good: because the sooner you accept the reality the sooner you are ready to MOVE ON and not be stuck in the past. Examples of Greg's eye-opening sentences: If you think "He was THE ONE". Greg's answer to that is: He wasn't The One because he chose to leave you. The right person will choose you over and over again. If you are thinking of all reasons why you should still be together. Greg's answer to that is: The person you loved took a long good look at the awesomeness that is you, evaluated your relationship and said 'No thanks. I'll try my luck elsewhere'. Dear ladies out there, accept the reality, focus on yourself and your wellbeing, move on. This shall pass.

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