The Courage To Be Disliked: A single book can change your life (Courage To series) (Cover may vary): The life changing multi-million copy global bestseller

Haven’t read it yet but everyone has been talking about it so want to give it ago. Great value for money, would definitely recommend

Why I Read It:Like many, I picked up this book because it was constantly going viral online. I was skeptical, assuming it was just another piece of motivational fluff. However, the premise—presenting Alfred Adler's complex philosophical concepts through a dialogue between a youth and a philosopher—made it an intriguing read for self-improvement.The Key Strengths (The Pros):Deeply Thought-Provoking: The book’s central philosophy—that all problems are interpersonal relationship problems and that we can choose to be happy now by separating our tasks from others' tasks—is genuinely radical and liberating. It forces a complete mental reframing of how you approach life and conflict.Highly Actionable Concepts: While heavy, the ideas are presented in clear, digestible terms (like "The Separation of Tasks"). I found myself immediately applying these concepts to reduce anxiety about other people's opinions, which is a rare feat for a self-help book.Effective Dialogue Format: The conversation style is brilliant. The Youth asks the exact skeptical, frustrated questions that the reader is thinking, allowing the Philosopher to patiently and clearly dismantle common self-sabotaging beliefs.More Than Just Hype: It delivers far more substance than its viral fame suggests. It's a challenging read that rewards careful reflection.The Compromise (The Cons):Challenging Concepts: Adlerian psychology is not easy. The book is repetitive by necessity (to drive home the core concepts), and some ideas (like "trauma is non-existent") are difficult to accept and require significant mental effort.Slightly Dry Tone: Because it is a direct philosophical dialogue, it can feel a little dry or abstract compared to personal narrative self-help books.Final Verdict:"The Courage To Be Disliked" is a genuinely insightful and potentially life-changing book that deserves its hype. It offers a powerful, new lens through which to view happiness and freedom from suffering. It loses one star only because the repetitive, heavy philosophical nature can be challenging. A strong 4-star read—perfect for anyone looking to radically shift their perspective on anxiety and self-worth.

I was first drawn to this book by it's titled. This book surprised me in the best way. I have never read a book written like this before where you, the reader is observing and listening to a conversation between a Philosopher and a youth. This book changed my way of thinking in such a positive way. As I was reading it, I not only found the question and responses fascinating, but realised that I was learning so much about myself and how I viewed life. It encourages a healthy approach to decision making, and has also encouraged me to be confident in who I am and go forward in life equipped to manage the challenges that will come as they do for us all. I recommend to a friend, and she thinks it is an exceptional book. I have the second book, but I haven't read it yet. Thank you.

I read this last autumn so I’m fuzzy on some of the details however the lesson of this book remains with me. I’m not the sort of person to say that a book changed my life but this book deeply impacted me (it changed my life).I’ve been “stuck” for decades - too much in my thoughts and feelings, too much in the thoughts and feelings of others. Having read this book, my life has transformed. My worldview and approach to life, especially interpersonal interactions and my internal state is so different. I am much mirr in control, at ease in myself and that is *major* for someone like me. No, every day is not perfect but my baseline - my bar - has risen and will never fall again.It’s not a long book but I read this very slowly, pages at a time over a few months so I could fully absorb it. Sometimes I had to go over the same pages a few times to get my head around concepts which felt so alien to me. Sometimes I just felt frustrated with what I was reading and needed a break.I found it quite challenging to read in parts, feeling “called out” when I recognised how my own thoughts and actions were keeping me stuck - and even more so that my stuckness was a choice, one which was serving me in ways I didn’t realise. It was a hard pill to swallow but being able to digest it privately, slowly and reading in my own time gave the opportunity for it to sink in, in a non-threatening way. I was able to see the light on the other side of all of this.I needed to understand and receive this information by book - if someone had come up to me and told me this stuff I’d have wanted to punch them in the face and shut it all down. Books are good. Books are safe spaces. Take your time with it.I’ve wanted to gift this book to others who seem stuck but don’t feel it’s my place to impose it on anyone. I think many of us, especially those who have been harmed, will find it *very* challenging to take accountability for the way our lives have panned out post-harm. For that reason I only ever let people know I’ve read it, that I’ve benefited from it and leave it at that.If you’re reading this and feel tired of your stuckness and feel ready to be challenged, privately, in your own time, and in a safe way, I highly recommend giving it a go.Wishing all of you well, wherever you are on your journeys and whether you loved or hated this book.

I stuck with this book and I am glad I did. However I did lose my way a couple of times. It gets you thinking about things and there are several almost 'lightbulb' moments but I can't help but feel it was a bit anticlimactic in some ways. I enjoyed the concept of tutor/student almost but ultimately I feel there are better books out there in this area

The quality of the book is fine, no complaints. It’s brand new, as it should be. No tears or printing issues of any sorts.Haven’t read the book yet, might update the review when I have.

The Courage to Be Disliked really caught me off guard in the best way. I went into it expecting another self-help book with a bit of solid advice here and there, but this felt different. The whole premise of Adlerian psychology, framed as a conversation between a philosopher and a young man, made it feel like I was sitting across from someone wiser than me, gently pushing me to think deeper about how I approach life.The core message – that we’re often held back by the need for approval and the fear of what others think – really hit home. I found myself nodding along as I read, especially in a world where it’s easy to get caught up in what people expect from you. It’s a reminder to stop playing the comparison game and start living on your own terms, which is something I think we could all benefit from hearing more of.There were parts that were incredibly empowering, like the emphasis on personal responsibility and how we choose to live our lives. The book really encourages you to take control, to realise that you’re the one who shapes your destiny – no one else. But, I will admit, it felt a bit too idealistic in places. Life isn’t always so clean-cut, and not every situation can be fixed with the “just don’t care what others think” approach.That said, this book is a great reminder to examine how much of our unhappiness is created by us, and how freeing it can be to stop looking for validation from others. It’s not a quick fix, but it’s definitely a step in the right direction. If you’re ready for a mindset shift and willing to put in the work, this one’s worth diving into.

delivery is super; the book has inspiring and plenty of jaw-dropping moments. can recommend to anyone who has an open mind to reflect on the self; i don't get the vibes of those self-help books telling you how you gotto do this or that to be a better you.

I found this book deeply provocative. It made me reflect on my own actions, or lack thereof.I could work more often on NOT pleasing others so much. You know, saying 'no', even when it hurts.Fascinating and eye-opening book.I recommend this read to all you champions out there.

I've read many spiritual, philosophical, self-help books, and for me, this is one of the best. When I first started reading it, I was very disappointed at the format - purely conversational style. After advancing a bit, I found that the ideas shared were so thought-provoking that they completely compensated for the format. The book revolves around Adlerian psychology, which I hadn't heard before. I found it extremely surprising how a theory that is close to 100 years old can offer so many ideas that feel so fresh, reasonable, and yet, so vastly counterintuitive from today’s beliefs regarding human behaviour.I would not recommend to people who dislike challenging traditional beliefs of human behaviour (their own included)

"The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is a thought-provoking and transformative book that challenges conventional wisdom about happiness, interpersonal relationships, and personal growth. Drawing on the principles of Alfred Adler, a renowned psychologist, this book presents a refreshing and liberating perspective on life.The authors introduce the Socratic dialogue format, where a young man engages in conversations with a philosopher, challenging his beliefs and assumptions. Through this dialogue, readers are invited to explore their own deeply ingrained beliefs and societal expectations that hinder personal growth and hinder their ability to live a fulfilling life.One of the most significant takeaways from this book is the concept of "separation of tasks." It teaches that individuals have the power to choose their own thoughts, attitudes, and actions independently of the past or the expectations of others. This notion empowers readers to take responsibility for their own happiness and break free from the victim mentality. It encourages personal agency and self-acceptance, emphasizing that it is possible to live authentically, regardless of external circumstances.Another valuable aspect of "The Courage to Be Disliked" is its exploration of interpersonal relationships. The book challenges the common belief that our past experiences and the behavior of others determine our present relationships. Instead, it argues that we have the ability to form new connections and choose how we interact with others, enabling us to foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships. This emphasis on individual responsibility and mutual respect provides a fresh perspective on the dynamics of human interaction.Furthermore, the book delves into the nature of happiness. It suggests that happiness is not dependent on external achievements or validation from others but stems from an internal sense of purpose and contentment. By embracing one's true self and pursuing one's own goals and desires, readers are encouraged to find a profound sense of fulfillment and joy.One of the strengths of this book is its accessibility. The Socratic dialogue format makes complex psychological concepts easily understandable and relatable. The conversations between the young man and the philosopher are engaging, thought-provoking, and provide practical examples that readers can apply to their own lives.However, it is important to note that "The Courage to Be Disliked" is not a quick fix or a step-by-step guide to happiness. It challenges deeply ingrained beliefs and requires introspection and personal reflection. Readers may need to revisit certain passages or concepts to fully grasp their meaning and integrate them into their lives.In comparison to other self-help and personal development books, "The Courage to Be Disliked" stands out due to its unique approach and philosophical foundation. It encourages readers to question societal norms, overcome their fears of social disapproval, and embrace their own uniqueness. While the book may not resonate with everyone, those willing to explore unconventional ideas will find it a transformative and empowering read.In conclusion, "The Courage to Be Disliked" is a remarkable book that challenges readers to rethink their beliefs about happiness, relationships, and personal growth. Its profound insights, presented through engaging dialogues, offer a liberating perspective on life. If you are open to exploring new ideas and are ready to take responsibility for your own happiness, this book can be a catalyst for personal transformation.

Doesn't make sense, and there's no real logic to it, but it gives you a certain constructive perspective on how to approach life. If you choose one self-help book, this is the one.

This book is super interesting and eye-opening, but the quality of the cover and paper is definitely not what I expected. The cover is super thin, and there are some gaps/holes in the glue layer between the cover and pages. Reading this book once is okay, but after the 2nd or 3rd time, I assume it will fall apart.