I wear women’s size 8.5 shoe. What size should I order in these sox?

I bought these socks and wear a size 10 shoe and ordered the 9-12 socks and they fit perfectly! Great socks! Very comfortable and do not slide and and down in your foot inside your shoe! Great quality!!

I wear size 9 1/2 or 10 women’s shoes I’m nervous about ordering the larger size because they say they are for men as well. What size should I order

I would order 9-12. The smaller size fits me well, but my shoe size is 7.5 - 8. If my feet were larger, I would definitely order the 9-12.

Does the tab on the top grind our feet?

No, the main funtion of the tab is to prevent the friction between the heel and ankle

Do this athletic socks shrink?

I’ve washed mine multiple times and had no issues with them shrinking. Hands down best sock in this price range. I bought them for running but I prefer them daily now.