Together Forever: The Gay Man's Guide to Lifelong Love

I've been in my relationship with my partner for over 20 years and have been hitting some bumps recently. I purchased and read this book and now have an entirely different way of looking at my husband, my relationship, and my life. I've already started implementing some of the things I read and am seeing positive results! I think that any book that can improve my relationship with my husband is a book that I should read!

I found this book in searching for inspiration / ideas on taking relationship to the next level-- how to promote spiritual growth in the relationship. this book is more about how to handle mishaps, when the relationship vears into "danger zones".But even for relationship first-aid, i find the suggestions questionnable: e.g. how to use reverse psychology,.. just one of the headings of many that recommend solving problems through witholding, manipulating, etc.If your relationship is pretty healthy, and you're looking for ways to deepen, this probably isn't the book. it was disappointing for me.

Vary open minded book. Every gay man should read it, espesially if you young and want have relationship early.

This book is great. Why are there so few books by credible authors supporting healthy, truly-monogamous relationships between men? If you're gay and consider yourself happily "old fashioned", this book rocks.

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The accounts of the relationships were mostly depressing, even the supposedly good ones. Some of the author's advice literally made me yell "WTF?" out loud. For example he suggests that if your significant other is the type who's always late you should try to get him to realize it's important to you that he's timely by always being on time yourself and then, within your partner's earshot, compliment yourself for being on time. Uhg.

My best friend, who is gay, always asks me for relationship advices. He's a really sweet and accomplished guy who just wants to find his Mr. Right. In the risk of giving him a bad advice, I bought him Doctor Martin Kantor's Together Forever book instead. Before I gave him the book, I read it first. Surprisingly, it works for all relationships and not specifically for guy- guy relationships only. This book would go well with Sandra Ross'  I've Got You: Sweet and Sexy Gay Erotica . It's a fantastic book that will help get you in the mood for romance.Right from the start, the book Together forever is a very easy read. The words are simple yet concise. It's like Doctor Kantor is speaking directly at you. His advice sounds solid and well founded. He speaks of authority borne from years of study, practice and personal experiences. He will teach you how to handle tough situations so you won't muck things up with your temper or words. He also teaches the readers how to communicate openly and how to respect each other's quirks.My best friend read this book for a week and held on to it like there's no tomorrow. It's not a very thick book but the advice and tips written need to be internalized and practiced further. My best bud said that their relationship now is better and stronger. The book helped them to overcome their issues.If you're looking for a book to help your relationship, whether you're gay or not, this book is for you.

Get ready for daring advice you didn't expect! It is what makes Together Forever one of the most powerful relationship guidebooks I have ever read. Dr. Martin Kantor is witty, irreverent and delightfully candid about what it takes to keep a gay (or straight) marriage strong and thriving. From the first page I could not put this book down! It felt like I was enjoying a caffe' latte in the good Doc's living room, while savoring every delicious drop of his wisdom, and no-nonsense strategies that keep love and intimacy alive and growing. As a psychiatrist, Dr. Kantor is brilliant. As an author, he is nothing short of magic. You get to benefit not only from Kantor's years of professional training and private practice, but also from the personal experiences he so generously shares in his characteristic informal style, making you feel he is talking to you directly. Well, he is! Beneath his humor and laid-back demeanor, Kantor also makes you take a provocative look at yourself, and get fired up to make critical changes that will benefit your partner, your relationship, and ultimately, yourself. Peppered with hilarious proverbs, insightful quizzes and fascinating anecdotes, Together Forever is honestly refreshing, and goes against the grain of most tired self-help books, which are simply regurgitations of one another. Each reader is sure to experience numerous "aha" moments and be able relate personally to the varied examples. After reading this book, there is no going back. You will definitely learn the art of the compromise and how to truly give of yourself --without losing yourself--for the sake of a joyful, committed partnership (a rare concept in the world of I, Me and Mine).This innovative book is full of useful actions you can use immediately to make your marriage a quality and lasting one, and avoid the desperation of life hopping the singles bars. The effects of reading Together Forever are life-affirming and enduring. Finally, a self-help book that really will change your life!

I have been with my "husband" for 16 years and was looking for a book to improve our relationship (which is already pretty damn good, but it is always worth exploring ways to improve), so I bought this book to read.It is terrible. I couldn't even bring myself to finish it. From the second chapter, I got the feeling that the author has serious issues with internalised homophobia. Nothing overt, but just a feeling from the context and content of the book.I stopped reading when I started to feel that this book was making me feel bad about myself. The author has serious issues with self-esteem and is writing a book about how to keep your husband from leaving you at all costs. This is a book about putting yourself second to ensure that you do not end up single. It is not a book about building a partnership between equals.I gave up on this book after reading the following advice:Problem: He is lazy. Solution: Fill in for him and do the jobs he doesn’t do himself.If he puts wet towels on the bed, just get a water-resistant mattress pad and leave the towels there until he picks them up by himself. It’s no big deal. They dry perfectly well in that position (although they might not be esthetically rectangular for the experience).This book is just so wrong. Find something else to read