Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and Long-Term Relationships: Second Edition

Good book for the subject matter. I had one, but purchased another copy for a friend.

I am in an NT/ASD marriage and this book has been extremely helpful in helping me to understand and improve on a 30 year struggle that had been a journey where I used to tell my husband, quite often, that I had my divorce lawyer on "speed dial". The greatest epiphany in this book was the realization that I needed more help than my husband did. When I learned to spend more time understanding his ASD ways and less time trying to change him, along with "quit taking everything so personally", doors to a healthier relationship began to immediately open. What a relief! A must read for all NT/ASD relationships!

The cover reflects how content I'd like to be with my AS husband, or maybe it's your AS wife, and the reviews I read I liked, what more could this author educate me about, like other authors, I wondered. Surprise!The author's husband has AS and brings to light her experiences with him, and from others in her practice that explain what we spouses are so confused about. She suggests techniques which are not hard, yet intriguing.It has been noted that there are a vast array of differences with-in the Autism Spectrum Community and I have learned no one book has them all, specifically for my husband, therefore, when a new diagnostic name is explained, and fits my mystery problem, it's like a soothing cream to a hemorrhoid!Although, chapter two had parts that were a hard read for me. I almost thought this book may be too over-whelming for my young daughter's- in-law, with all the 'Doctor's way of talking' regarding the medical book they refer to for their diagnosis, which may be important, but when I read medical terminology it probably looks like the AS brain which I describe as the little blue circle on the screen of my computer, that goes around and around when it is searching for something, that it never finds, until I finally X it out. Or, like a food I don't like and I don't want to try it again. More importantly, I respect Doctors who do, thank you for your love for medicine and taking care of me. I'm almost done with chapter four, and it's that good to say what I am saying before I am done reading it.Enjoy! Dianne .

I am the one with Aspergers. I read this book to get a better idea of what it's like from his perspective. I do think it was written well, and I highlighted and took screenshots of many pages to read to him later to see if he agrees. I think there could have been more sections that specifically discuss females since we are vastly different from our male counterparts. I do understand though that this is written from the perspective of a wife of an Aspie so the in-depth information might not be known. Still a great resource I'm sure for NT spouses. For a future book, maybe consider including more from our take of things, as we see things vastly different and chapters specifically about women. For one, we are so unlike typical women. I'd love to learn how to flirt, how to set aside the innocence for the sake of relations. To explain how we are compared to other women. I don't know, just something I'm in search for in a book. Most of us are asexuals but are married. Due to this, we have many issues and we are considered as cold. I'm told its adorable but it'd be great to learn how to get past the hurdles. Trapped in the mind, unable to put into action.

Received faster than expected delivery and the book was in better than expected condition. Definitely recommend this seller.

Excellent read for anyone who wants to learn how to successfully relate to a people with Aspergers. Reading it confirmed that some of our youth probably have Aspergers. It provided insights on other skills we might want to help them develop so they can better thrive in their future relationships instead of struggle like so many.

The tone of this book is positive and encouraging. The (neurotypical) author succeeds in presenting both neurotypical and ASD views of social contexts and situations. It is organized to follow the structure of DSM-5 diagnostic criteria so the content is focused and relevant. Each section contains very specific and helpful examples illustrating problems and solutions in that category of symptoms.

I'm really on the fence about whether to recommend this book. The author does a good job of detailing ways that autistic traits can show up in relationships. However, as an autistic person, I can say that many of the descriptions of autistic traits are patronizing and the author repeatedly encourages autistic people to learn to mask more (a practice believed to be linked to trauma and greater suicidality). Instead of presenting a truly neutral perspective on the autistic experience, she refers to neurotypical ways of being like NT gesturing and eye contact as "appropriate." She describes pitying her husband for essentially not processing faces in a neurotypical manner, presenting this as a tragedy to grieve rather than understanding that perhaps it is more than made up for by the autistic ways he perceives and appreciates her. She describes experimenting on her partner and child to see if they acted similarly to research subjects she had read about. She presents topics like the phasing out of the term "Asperger's" and the pros of adult diagnosis in a one-sided manner, never mentioning the issues with Asperger as a Nazi sympathizer or any of the very real cons of diagnosis. Ultimately, I would recommend this book with a caution to those who are already very familiar with autism from a neurodiversity-affirming perspective and who are looking for help in their relationship. I would be more hesitant to recommend it to those who may lack a foundation in framing autism neutrally because they are more likely to have their views shaped by the problematic perspective presented by the author.

This is the most helpful book I have read so far on this subject. The list of problems set down by the DSM 5 and ICD 11 for Autism. Is each chapter subject in turn. So first the difficulty is explained from the AS point of view. Then from the NT point of view. Then help is given to each. So understanding is the goal. From true understanding love and happiness can blossom. The writer,s love and caring comes over very strong. You will enjoy her style of writing, and enjoy learning so much from every example and point.

The original book was the most helpful insight imaginable; this is simply updated to the current fashion of calling it ASD, and is still essential to understanding a partner with Asperger's. I have seen nothing else comparable.

I have read many books on this subject, but if I could choose just one, it would be Ashley Stanford's insightful book. For many people reading this book could be life-changing and I know I will be returning to it time and time again.

A very informative, real, helpful, clearly and simply written book. A must have for ASD linked couples, given the lack of awareness/understanding generally of ASD; and in particular its impact on long term/family relationships. Thank you is simply inadequate to express appreciation regarding the help this book is; but thank you Ashley Stanford.

I understand that this was written from a lived experience but found it heavily weighted towards male orientated autism spectrum disorder just as so many other things on the market are. It was still an interesting enough read.