The Courage To Be Disliked: A single book can change your life (Courage To se...

Great book, would definitely recommend! Life changing thoughts. Read on kindle

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I read this last autumn so I’m fuzzy on some of the details however the lesson of this book remains with me. I’m not the sort of person to say that a book changed my life but this book deeply impacted me (it changed my life). I’ve been “stuck” for decades - too much in my thoughts and feelings, too much in the thoughts and feelings of others. Having read this book, my life has transformed. My worldview and approach to life, especially interpersonal interactions and my internal state is so different. I am much mirr in control, at ease in myself and that is *major* for someone like me. No, every day is not perfect but my baseline - my bar - has risen and will never fall again. It’s not a long book but I read this very slowly, pages at a time over a few months so I could fully absorb it. Sometimes I had to go over the same pages a few times to get my head around concepts which felt so alien to me. Sometimes I just felt frustrated with what I was reading and needed a break. I found it quite challenging to read in parts, feeling “called out” when I recognised how my own thoughts and actions were keeping me stuck - and even more so that my stuckness was a choice, one which was serving me in ways I didn’t realise. It was a hard pill to swallow but being able to digest it privately, slowly and reading in my own time gave the opportunity for it to sink in, in a non-threatening way. I was able to see the light on the other side of all of this. I needed to understand and receive this information by book - if someone had come up to me and told me this stuff I’d have wanted to punch them in the face and shut it all down. Books are good. Books are safe spaces. Take your time with it. I’ve wanted to gift this book to others who seem stuck but don’t feel it’s my place to impose it on anyone. I think many of us, especially those who have been harmed, will find it *very* challenging to take accountability for the way our lives have panned out post-harm. For that reason I only ever let people know I’ve read it, that I’ve benefited from it and leave it at that. If you’re reading this and feel tired of your stuckness and feel ready to be challenged, privately, in your own time, and in a safe way, I highly recommend giving it a go. Wishing all of you well, wherever you are on your journeys and whether you loved or hated this book.

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Courage to Be Disliked Review Grade: C Difficulty Level: A challenge to those with fixed mindsets What I loved about the book is how it’s rooted in Adlerian philosophy, which is largely a philosophy of extreme ownership. However, the whole book is literally about Adlerian Psychology- and if anything, it should have been called Adler’s book. It was also written in the theme of a conversation between a philosopher and a young student, who had a fixed mindset, limiting beliefs, a sulking nature, and had an excuse for everything, rather than taking full responsibility for his life. The philosopher engages him in thoughtful discussion about such points, and over the course of a few weeks, the student is gradually able to change his ways. This was a clever idea, and for many people who exhibit those traits, it will allow a deep level of reflection and challenge these negative habits that are deeply entrenched in one’s identity. However, for those who don’t exhibit such traits, the book is of much less use. As a result, not much value was able to be extracted, and many times I found myself skimming the majority of the content. Its a good book, and like all books I’ve read, I learned something new, which im forever grateful for. However, I expected more enlightenment, and this book didn’t provide that.

I recently finished reading "The Courage To Be Disliked," and I have to say, it’s quite a thought-provoking book. The format, which is a dialogue between a philosopher and a youth, makes the ideas flow naturally and keeps you engaged throughout. What really stood out to me is the concept of how much our happiness is tied to our own perceptions and the choices we make. The authors challenge the idea that we’re shaped solely by our past experiences or other people's opinions. Instead, they encourage readers to take control of their lives and find their own path. I appreciated how the book emphasized the importance of being true to yourself, even if it means facing criticism or disapproval from others. It’s a refreshing take that seems especially relevant today, where social media pressures can make it really hard to feel authentic. While some ideas may take a bit to digest, I found the overall message empowering. It's not just about letting go of the need for approval; it’s about understanding that our worth isn’t determined by others. If you’re looking for a book that prompts self-reflection and inspires you to think differently about life, I’d definitely recommend giving "The Courage To Be Disliked" a shot.

Why I Read It: Like many, I picked up this book because it was constantly going viral online. I was skeptical, assuming it was just another piece of motivational fluff. However, the premise—presenting Alfred Adler's complex philosophical concepts through a dialogue between a youth and a philosopher—made it an intriguing read for self-improvement. The Key Strengths (The Pros): Deeply Thought-Provoking: The book’s central philosophy—that all problems are interpersonal relationship problems and that we can choose to be happy now by separating our tasks from others' tasks—is genuinely radical and liberating. It forces a complete mental reframing of how you approach life and conflict. Highly Actionable Concepts: While heavy, the ideas are presented in clear, digestible terms (like "The Separation of Tasks"). I found myself immediately applying these concepts to reduce anxiety about other people's opinions, which is a rare feat for a self-help book. Effective Dialogue Format: The conversation style is brilliant. The Youth asks the exact skeptical, frustrated questions that the reader is thinking, allowing the Philosopher to patiently and clearly dismantle common self-sabotaging beliefs. More Than Just Hype: It delivers far more substance than its viral fame suggests. It's a challenging read that rewards careful reflection. The Compromise (The Cons): Challenging Concepts: Adlerian psychology is not easy. The book is repetitive by necessity (to drive home the core concepts), and some ideas (like "trauma is non-existent") are difficult to accept and require significant mental effort. Slightly Dry Tone: Because it is a direct philosophical dialogue, it can feel a little dry or abstract compared to personal narrative self-help books. Final Verdict: "The Courage To Be Disliked" is a genuinely insightful and potentially life-changing book that deserves its hype. It offers a powerful, new lens through which to view happiness and freedom from suffering. It loses one star only because the repetitive, heavy philosophical nature can be challenging. A strong 4-star read—perfect for anyone looking to radically shift their perspective on anxiety and self-worth.

This book solidified my independent thinking and changed my perspective on social acceptance. It offers insight into personal responsibility both from the angle of accepting your own while unburdening yourself of the pressures of taking on the tasks of others, encouraging a mindset geared for growth.